an internal frame of reference, and leadership. Total self-acceptance is simple. It means accepting and embracing yourself exactly as you are right now. Not tomorrow, not next week. Right now. The boy is always wondering when hell be able to reach the high shelf, when hell be able to lift the heavy weights, when hell finally get there. Realize that you are already there. The work is already done. Having an internal frame of reference means taking your own counsel at all times. This means that in all matters pertaining to your life, you are the final authority. You will not wait to follow the counsel of friends, family members, society or culture. You will not do things in order to gain approval. You will do what is right according to your own principles. Finally, leadership means that especially in your dealings with women, you will always take the lead. Does that mean you always have to be in the drivers seat? Not necessarily. A relationship is a partnership, and sometimes she will be in the drivers seat,rnand thats fine. However, even when she is the drivers seat, you must know exactly where you are going, why you are going there, and how to get there. Because if you get lost, its not her fault - youre still responsible. No giving up of initiative; no laziness. Do your due diligence. This is hard work. But it is your duty in the relationship. Regardless of the progress of gender equality, it is always a good idea to be aware and in control of your own fate, especially when others are involved in it. Think of ballroom dancing. Is there any point at which it is appropriate for the woman to lead the man? It is a partnership, yet one in which one
